It is natural and human to be sad and to grieve for those people, things, and stages we inevitably lose. So often sadness is met with dismissal or a sort of jollying along because others you tell don’t want to hear or bear it with you. It may be they just don’t know what to do or say. So they make comments designed to try and make you feel better but do the opposite: make you feel as though there is something wrong with you for having human feelings.
Resorting to medication
Worse still if you go the professional route – because you might be unaware of the range of your feelings – you might be offered a diagnosis of depression and an anti-depressant. So many general practitioners admit they have no time to think about a patient’s grief and sadness and feel they want or have to do something so they say, ‘take a pill’. It doesn’t really solve anything; it just suppresses the feelings which are bound to seep out at a later time.
Explore your feelings
It is important to be aware of all of your feelings and explore and talk about them. If you are in a relationship it is best to acknowledge how you are feeling and explain why you are angry or miserable. Don’t just suffer in silence or avoid one way or another the very stuff of being human.